[dinosaur]

well....you should get along with your SO 's friends, but you don't HAVE to. some ppl just naturally do not mix well.

is this a big deal? no.
should you still support your SO's friendships yes.

if you are not a bad person, or give them a reason to "to talk shit about you", then they wont. at the same time, dont talk shit about them.

you didnt choose his friend, he did.

Grid has a friend who may not be my most favourite person in the world, but do I care? no. He is a nice guy and all...just not my type of person. When we hang out, I don't treat him any different...I'm nice, have conversations with him, joke with him, etc but wouldn't miss him if he wasn't there. I encourage their friendship (ex. "have you talk to xxx lately" or "you should go out for beers with xxx on Friday") because I think it is important for him to have "guy" time.

Grid also has another friend who I LOVE! We get along like best friends. I would love to be with him every time her sees her, but I am not....this is my choice. I am always invited, but I think it is important that they have time to socialize together without SOs. They have been friends for over 10 years and share stories, etc. that I was not involved in. They can talk about life, relationships, family, etc. and I don't have to worry about her "talking shit" about me b/c I have always treated her with respect.

At the end of the day...if you have a solid relationship and are confident, it doesn't matter what his friends think or say.