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dinosaur · 06-05-2012, 01:41 PM

Bicycle, dude....bicycle.

I don't know if you need to discuss it before as it may make it a little more awkward for you AND for him.

fucking for the first time is usually awkward anyways. he isn't going to be thinking, "oh, this chick is kissing (or fucking) like she hasn't done it in 2 years". it WILL feel different anyways as the mix is different. different people, different chemistry, different feeling. If you have never done any of this with him before, then it is all new! there is nothing to compare it with!

my recommendations? act like a pro and if you have to, fake confidence. i went through something that i can maybe relate.

was with a guy 9 year....in that 9 years i didnt kiss or have sex with anyone else. when that ended, i had it flash in my head that "omg, i have had NO experience for 9 years! what if i suck!? what if i dont do it right?! how should i act!?" then i thought, fuck it! i am going to do me! if he doesn't like it? his problem.

after 9 years of being intimate with a partner, there are certain things you know you like...know you want...and know what you don't want. the problem is, at 7 years in, do you say, "hey, you know that thing we have been doing every time we have sex? guess what...i don't like it". that conversation is WAAAAAY harder to have after 7 years than it would have been the first time.

be upfront with your needs. be confident...fake it if you have to. be strong. act like you know what you are doing even if you don't. if you want to be fucked upside down? tell him! if you LOOOOOOVE to be fucked hard? Tell him! if you DON'T like 69? tell him! put it all on the table the first time. if you dont, telling him these things year or months down the road will be awkward.

you are beautiful, hilarious, smart, intelligent, caring, and have an amazing heart. he likes you for those reasons...not for what you "could" be or "will" be like in the sack.

06-05-2012, 01:41 PM	#126
dinosaur Banned By Establishment Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: bedroom Posts: 3,112 Thanked 3,492 Times in 1,176 Posts Failed 441 Times in 145 Posts	Bicycle, dude....bicycle. I don't know if you need to discuss it before as it may make it a little more awkward for you AND for him. fucking for the first time is usually awkward anyways. he isn't going to be thinking, "oh, this chick is kissing (or fucking) like she hasn't done it in 2 years". it WILL feel different anyways as the mix is different. different people, different chemistry, different feeling. If you have never done any of this with him before, then it is all new! there is nothing to compare it with! my recommendations? act like a pro and if you have to, fake confidence. i went through something that i can maybe relate. was with a guy 9 year....in that 9 years i didnt kiss or have sex with anyone else. when that ended, i had it flash in my head that "omg, i have had NO experience for 9 years! what if i suck!? what if i dont do it right?! how should i act!?" then i thought, fuck it! i am going to do me! if he doesn't like it? his problem. after 9 years of being intimate with a partner, there are certain things you know you like...know you want...and know what you don't want. the problem is, at 7 years in, do you say, "hey, you know that thing we have been doing every time we have sex? guess what...i don't like it". that conversation is WAAAAAY harder to have after 7 years than it would have been the first time. be upfront with your needs. be confident...fake it if you have to. be strong. act like you know what you are doing even if you don't. if you want to be fucked upside down? tell him! if you LOOOOOOVE to be fucked hard? Tell him! if you DON'T like 69? tell him! put it all on the table the first time. if you dont, telling him these things year or months down the road will be awkward. you are beautiful, hilarious, smart, intelligent, caring, and have an amazing heart. he likes you for those reasons...not for what you "could" be or "will" be like in the sack.