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Originally Posted by Z3guy
^ sure you are right.........let me know how you are doing in 5yrs....
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I've been married for 3 years.
Before that I've survived other relationships that ranged a span of 1 or 2 years before those ended and things still turned out fine. So there you go.
On another note: You can't be too cynical about life, you can't be too jaded. People detect that shit and it looks like baggage when your in the dating scene; and baggage counts as a notch against anyone.
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Originally Posted by Tapioca
I get where Noir is coming from, but this is a different time. It's a dog eat dog world out there: many of us are me-first type of people. It's not right, but it's just the way it is.
Stuff isn't a big deal, but your primary asset (your residence) is. There are no ifs ands or buts. Once you tie the knot, then yes, you have to be all-in and be prepared to lose everything.
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Me too. In fact, I'm probably more self-centered and selfish than most around here growing up. The thing is, you know how you know when you have a healthy relationship and a great partner? Your "me-first" attitude gradually disappears.
To be honest, I get where you all are coming from too. And if the problem is not that the OP is some damaged guy with trust, relationship, and possession issues, then it then begs the question, what kind of girl does the OP have if after having 2 years and going that the OP still feels a great need to be prudent.