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Originally Posted by MGuy
I can do this to the day I die, and will do it if that is what it takes. I'm not going anywhere unless she wants me to.
Its tough now, but there have been far more good things than bad. This is just a point where I am stuck, I don't want to put her in a place she does not want to be.
The ring is there, the questions just has not been asked yet.....but very soon. I will not give up on this girl, she is worth fighting for every day of my life.
I'm sure some of you will think me stupid for saying such a thing, but there is so much more to this than I can share. I have been in love with her and been through so much in this life...I know she is the one I want to be with even if it is tough sometimes.
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First, thank you. You have a child together, and that is worth the effort.
When I say "I can't do this anymore", I don't mean immediate break-up.
It sounds like you are trying a lot to help...but what of you?
Here you are on revscene, basically crying out for help. Saying "What more can I do?"
You can't. Men are fixers. She's having a problem, and your solution is to solve it. You can't. The best thing you can do is listen. No solutions, no 'what if we do this', just listen.
But I still get a 'we can't do this' feeling. And, that's not out of hate, that's out of love. You are working long days, busting it to provide for a family. Can you really keep up that energy at work all day, then come home to have your head taken off? I don't need the answer, but ask yourself the question, "how's that working out for you?"
I think there really could be a chemical imbalance. Or not, but we don't know.
I also think you really need to get some impartial help. I get that there are things you wouldn't want to share here. Share them in a safe place. They'll be able to talk about a medical side. Maybe its emotional. If she's trapped in toddler land all day, without a lot of friends to talk to...she could be going 'nuts'...I know I'd lose it. We need that connection with the adult, outside world.
What's the point of working your ass off if it isn't getting you anywhere?