[Noir]

You can't. Love is not something you can turn off like a light switch; and there's no amount of band-aid solutions that will ever fix the root of your problem that "the one you want" is gone for good.

Do what I did when this happened to me. Just do your time. The sooner you sulk and grieve the situation, the sooner you'll come to terms with it (rather than denying it). And if you have good friends (like I was luckily enough to have), they'll do their very best to keep you company during dark times in your life.

They won't solve your problems, hell, they won't even speed up the solution. But they're just there just so you're not going through your own personal hell alone. And when the time comes for you to return the favour (and it will), please pass it on forward.



edit:

TBH,

Good bro's may not solve your problem or be a source of solution but:

(a) They make good sounding boards for you to vent your feelings (which I'm sure is overwhelming right now), and good bros won't judge you because you're a bit of a pansy right now and very vulnerable.

(b) Good bros will be there to make sure you don't do anything destructive while you're grieving. Depending on how invested someone was, some people entertain the thoughts of suicide during depression. Is this normal? yes. But a good bro is there just to make sure you never follow through on anything stupid.

(c) In the odd chance you get pity sex, or have a chance at it, a good bro will wingman for you.


You need your friends (real friends) more than you need another girl, or you exgf. The last time I had to go through this, my friends made sure I was drunk all the time, high, and getting laid every now and then (either by hookups in clubs/party or other arrangements, lol). Was it healthy? Fuck no. But I thank them everyday for it.


Well sorry that was a long one, but I thought I'd share my story of when I was in your shoes.