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Originally Posted by 6793026
i agree with you Glove. MOVE the FUCK on and get your closure later down the road. I don't know if dinosaur is a girl or not but do NOT FUCKING go talking to the girl to get "feedback" or find an answer.
JUST LET IT GO. The last thing you want is "oh, i've fell for another guy" "I've cheated on you". When someone moves the fuck on says they don't love you, there is NOTHING YOU can do.
If she made a mistake and comes crawling back 2 weeks later, LET HER beg for you but move the fuck on cause you won't get over the fact she might dump you any other time.
Months / years down the road, you'll soon realize that everything will be ok. You will just accept that it's part of life. You will then get closure when you talk to her next time you talk to her. You will never get closure during these emotional days right now.
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So disagree.
Can we drop the "dudes don't have feelings...fuck hoes, go to gym, smooke weed" mentality for just a sec?
In 'real' relationships, you know, where both sides have invested into the relationship, you need to have closure.
I know! it sounds really lame.
You know those friends you have that constantly date the same person, over and over again, and it doesn't work out, over and over again?
It's because they don't actually sit and LEARN what went wrong. It was all Mary's fault! So we replace Mary...with someone that might as well BE Mary, because she treats you the exact same way. Then, in two years, its fuck Jill! It's all Jill's fault, so you replace Jill..and eventually you are left with your attitude being: "bitches".
Women are especially bad for it.
I'm not saying we need to join hands at a drum circle and get down with our inner selves, but that conversation is important...for both.
I was in a relationship for 6 years, and once I had my shit moved out and this was it...tonight I sleep at my own place(which was awesome!) we sat and we talked.
She got to get some of her anger out, frustration and got to have an answer as to why. I got to say my feelings on the subject, why I couldn't marry her and ultimately, why I left the country for a month, and came back to dump her.
I wanted her to have closure. I had spent 6 years with her, and although I couldn't be with her, I still cared for her. You'd have to be pretty heartless, or dishonest to say you don't. I wanted for her to be able to move past it, and have a happy life. She didn't really, and hasn't dated anyone since...but it ain't my fault! I tried.
Hell, I wanted closure.
I got to say the things that had been on the tip of my tongue for 6 fucking years.
I can say one thing from it all. I learned what went wrong, and despite what may have been said about me, it wasn't all my fault.
And I can tell you something else...I knew enough not to wrap that all up in the person, and went bigger and never dated that personality type again either.