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Originally Posted by G-spec
I'm about to come off rough, but hear me out, I'm a dude who has battled with post traumatic war syndrome and the mental stability issues that come with that as long as I can remember
I know to you guys it's a real issue, but to me personally, that's some first world problem shit, its pussy behaviour that needs to be corrected, he needs to get punched the fuck out by one of you guys to really test the theory of him being actually "mentally unstable, bipolar"
To me he just sounds like a spoiled baby acting out because he's either spoiled or really does have mental issues, either way, after getting knocked the fuck out for acting up or tough, or like an unreasonable idiot for no good reason, it should give him a new perspective on a few things... like a reality check, it goes two ways, if he acts humble about it, then the truth is he's been a spoiled baby all along... if he comes off negative as in getting mad at everyone involved then it's obvious he's a douche and obviously you will not stop being friends with him, so my best advice at that point is that whenever he acts like a douche (he does it for attention, that's clear at this point) that you just treat him like an idiot and the baby that he is and literally ignore his cries and attention whoring like that woman at Starbucks ignoring her crying baby until it's cried out.... this method will take time, but it should be pretty effective as well in letting him know, ok my act is getting fcking lame, I should grow up
I've personally done this to one of my best friends, years and years of him being douchey to everyone when liquored up, I dropped him pretty fckin hard one day for starting up and he's been solid ever since... reality check is best served NOW, not later... not some other time.... but fucking NOW
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You did come out rough but that was really insightful. Thanks for your imput. Yeah, he is sort of like a spoiled baby. He does cry for attention a lot too, but I'm going to try to find another way before punching him straight on.
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Originally Posted by dinosaur
Do you fell comfortable going out for coffee/beer with him and laying it all on the line? Go at it as if you are "concerned" for him and not, "you're an asshole".
Just put it all out there...maybe give example that aren't just how he treats his gf. See what he says...maybe he knows he does it but doesn't know how to stop it? If so, tell him to get help.
If he denies, gets mad, etc...maybe it is time for you to be less involved in his life. Some times friendships don't last forever and maybe it is time for you to move on. But first, you need to try.
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Yeah that is what I'm planning to do. I'm gonna doit tomorrow with one other guy while we chill with him. My friend and I discussed this, he said "if he doesn't change I don't know if we can stay friends with him"
he's never an asshole to me and him - but to me it's like knowing he's like this to other people (his gf, his mom) . Metaphorically, like being friends with someone who's a war criminal, he's nice to his friends but does asshole things to others