Quote:
Originally Posted by k00laid
Yea Ive asked her, and she says she doesnt need it, just straight up no needs. After talking to her many times and this and that she just doesnt enjoy sex and she sees no point in it. If I had to guess she would probably go the rest of her life without sex if she could.
We've been going out for a little more then 3 years and we havent had sex in 10 months. When we first got together it took almost 6 months, then we had it like once a month (which im already dying here) and she just told me she didnt like it, doesnt enjoy, sees no point in it.
I on the other hand need the physical closeness/intimacy. But when she told me she doesnt like it, I didnt want to do it with her either because Im the sort of guy who doesnt like to make people do something they dont want/enjoy doing. Thus leading it on till now for 10 months of doing all the boyfriend duties but none of the boyfriend benefits.
I want to break up, Ive been unhappy and dissatisfied with the relationship for quite some time but I cant think of a way to breakup with her without destroying her self esteem (as its already low). Yet I'm getting really sick of having bf responsibilities and not getting anything out of it. I know being in a relationship is about give and take but I feel like Im just giving and not taking anything. My friends tell me Im too nice and I should just do it, but Im sure she'll have a tough time without me in her life *sigh*
|
I'm in a similar situation as you. We've been dating for 2 years and 6 months. When I asked my gf out, we would have sex at least 4 times a week. Around 7 months later, we started to cut down on the times we had sex. Eventually we just stopped all together. Whenever I initiated sex, she would indirectly reject it or she would straight-up stay no or she doesn't want to. At first I thought she just didn't feel like it but as the weeks went by everytime I tried she would say the same thing. That's when I knew something wasn't right. I've talked to her several times and she just give me some generic excuse about her not feeling in the mood. After awhile I just stopped trying. Sometimes she acts sexually playful and there's a little bit of foreplay but never leads to anything. I feel so detached intimately from her. I don't know what's going on. I also feel as though if we broke up, she would have trouble because I do actually do a lot for her.
I've gotten a bit chubbier (belly) so maybe shes not physically attracted to me?