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Originally Posted by Noir

Big talk. Yes, it is.


Would you still act that way even if you were in the wrong? Even if you were out of line? Is there no justification for public scrutiny? Or maybe perhaps the exception only applies to women as men are "supposedly" obliged to chivalry?

This has nothing to do with being right or wrong. I have been out of line and I have been wrong, but nothing that has ever warranted 'public scrutiny'. In fact, I can think of only a few things where public scrutiny would be called for (cheating, abused, etc). This has nothing to do with chivalry, it has to do with respect. Using the OP example, although we do not know what the 'problem' is, we can surmised that it had to do with respect. In that case, as the old saying goes, 2 wrongs don't make a right. OP should have handled the situation after the friends had gone or when he pulled her aside, he should have expressed his feelings and left it at that until people were not around.

I don't care what I have done (with exception to the examples given above), I do not deserve 'public scrutiny' or public shaming or to talk talked to in a condescending tone or demeaned. I am an adult and if my bf/husband feels the need to address me a his child, than the problem is bigger than just pulling me aside in a social situation.

I mean seriously? Yes, seriously.

Have you ever done something that pissed someone off? Made someone angry to the point where they lost patience? Or enough to have caused someone to act unbecoming of themselves?

I am sure I have. I am quite sure that at some point my last 15 years of dating that I have done something to push my bf over the edge. Has this ever happened in public? Never. In retrospect has whatever pushed my SO over the edge been blown out of proportion? Yes, and have we settled it in an adult manner.

I don't live a life of irrational mood swings and outbursts. I never have. I have never fought with my bf at a party...or had an argument at a restaurant...or a store, etc. I settle my shit behind a closed door. Maybe it was the way I was raised...maybe it is the fact that I just don't do shit like that.

Same can be said for the way I treat my friends. I have never had a screaming fight in school or on the playground, etc.

I know people that are like this...I find them pathetic. Piss in your own yard, not somebody else's.

I am sure you get my point.


Are you that perfect? My mom thinks so!



Yes, we all must exercise restraint. We all must strive to be the "better" person. But are we as imperfect human beings, sometimes deserve what we get? Or do you really just "fucking cut" anyone who has acted out against you?

I dig. Like you said...we all must exercise restraint. Some are better than others. OP? Not so much. I never said we were perfect and I certainly don't claim to be. I don't really think anyone deserves to be the victim of public ridicule.

And, you only get cut when you fail to realize that comment was tongue and cheek.