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What you have is a serious case of oneitis that's clouding all of your judgement. You're more afraid of losing her and her possibly finding another bf (maybe in UK) that's gonna rawdog that pussy which you never got.
Think of the current circumstances:
1) you're both living on opposite sides of the world
2) i'm assuming she doesn't have Canadian citizenship so it's not like she can just come and work here right after she graduates
3) if you go to HK to work, you'll still be in LD as she's in China
4) her mom will always be saying negative shit to her
Unfortunately, your only mistake in this situation was not dumping her sooner. Let me explain.
If you dump a girl “too fast,” one who was a good fit for you, the consequences are relatively insignificant. You will find someone else who can make you just as happy or possibly happier; assuming you have enough ambition to pursue another relationship. If you allow yourself to get duped by the soul mate propaganda war, you will not find someone else because you aren’t allowing yourself to.
On the other hand, if you mistakenly AVOID dumping a girl you AREN’T a good fit for, the consequences are far more severe. The monotony of a loveless life co-inhabited by a succubus will compulsively strip your existence of all color. But even worse than actually living through such an ordeal is the nagging voice in the back of your head constantly telling you that you might have been able to live a better life if you had the courage to overcome your fear of loss. The unhappiness from a break up with a “good fit” will be temporary; it will last until you find someone else. The unhappiness from staying with a “bad fit” is eternal. It is a mistake that cannot be fixed.
You've already wasted 3 years on this relationship. It's time to cut off all contact and just move on. None of this "let's be friends" BS.
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