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Originally Posted by ApexSeal
Her face I guess? It's not really a turn-off per se, it's just when I look at her I don't really feel anything. If I had come across her picture on facebook or saw her at a coffee place I probably wouldn't take a second look.
Definitely it's her personality that makes her attractive. When we're driving somewhere and I'm not looking directly at her (because I'm driving) and we're just chatting, that's when it's especially good. Because I'm just talking to her and hearing her cute voice and laughter back.
K yeah, pretty sure this makes me an asshole. LOL
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You're absolutely not an asshole. The opposite. Given that you are considering entering a relationship with the girl, and being honest with yourself that physical attraction may be a barrier to long term success, you're approaching the situation with a good deal of maturity.
Attraction to a person on a romantic level isn't based purely on physical attractiveness, personality, or intelligence, it's a mosaic of all of the above. If one of those qualities is seriously lacking in your subjective opinion, the mosaic will likely never entirely come together and you won't be completely fulfilled. In your prior relationship an intellectual attraction was lacking, it's now a prior relationship. If in this potential relationship physical attractiveness is seriously lacking, there's a good chance it would also become a prior relationship. Let's be honest, one day you're probably going to meet a girl who ticks all your boxes and if you're stuck in this relationship when that happens, well....
I don't think this is superficial, quintessentially male, assholesq, or anything else negative.
I agree that personality and intelligence are probably a bit more important than physical attraction, but that doesn't negate the importance of it.
Either way, I'd at least form a lasting friendship with her if you have a good connection.