Originally Posted by v.Rossi
If she's white and your asian, don't think it'll set you back. Just don't have an asian mentality and say fuck in every sentence, but rather just a normal human being conversation. Leave the murse at home too.
Westernized chicks dig guys that can hold a conversation, well.
A good way to overcome your fear is to change the perspective to your favor. You're afraid of rejection here, where there are men out there fighting for our country. They're afraid of stepping on a landmine, while you're afraid of "sorry let's just be friends." Your fear now looks pretty petty, despite how much you think it's ever so frightening. That way it's not hyped up with pressure for you, but more like "meh, at least I didn't die from shrapnel."
A good way to lure her into a date is open ended questions about her. Chicks love talking about themselves, find what she does or likes to do. Seem intrigued, it works better when you genuinely care heh, and then word it to make it a mutual activity that you can possibly do together really just to get her number.
Confidence is subjective. If you can see yourself with her, then you can see yourself with her. Again change your perspective, when asking a chicks number instead of thinking how am I gonna get her number? Think, so what am I gonna do with that number once I get it. (Obviously, call, but you're thinking a step ahead and already foreseeing. Being ahead of the game is well, nice).
Confident persona with a hint of cocky, win. Cocky as in a smirkful/sarcastic humor presented in a non-hurtful classy way.
The more you talk, with hands, lips, etc. the more comfortable you'll be with the other party. Also remember, you don't wanna be the guy that agrees to everything. I can tell you a Scion XB looks like a circular car, I don't expect you to go "haha, yeah it kinda does." If you don't agree, don't fucking agree. Speak your mind it's how conversations are made, and you appear remotely interesting. It's why nice people are rather annoying sometimes, they agree to everything. Again, keep in mind of being open-minded(chicks also dig) and keeping conversations classy.
You hear men complaining that women don't appreciate a nice guy and prefer to be with jerks. Women are drawn to strength qualities in men first. Sensitivity and sweetness is appealing when added as dessert, but an entire meal of cake frosting is nauseating.
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