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Originally Posted by Spoon
Spoken like a true single guy. Try taking care of one full time, it's a lot of work.
Many a times I've informed my co-workers that when I'm taking a day off work to spend a day with my kid (toddler), it's not actually a "day off". In fact I get tired out by the evening just because of how physically demanding they are.
While I love spending time with my kid, work is a lot less "work".
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lol
well i dont know much about you, and how you were raised and how you take care of your kid
but im basing it off my experience of seeing different families with kids.
and my experience coming from a family of 3 boys.
why is it some moms with 3 kids can still keep the house clean and have meals prepared every meal?
why is it some moms with 1 kid cant get anything done?
why is it some people can't even keep their place clean with no kids?
the only thing they have in common is it's their only job and they don't have any help.
yeah no shit it's hard. you're raising a human being. it's still no excuse for the place being a mess.
so can we come to a conclusion that some moms work harder than others?
some moms are smarter than others?
those with children old enough to put things back where they got them, but still don't. you aren't instilling enough discipline in them. if reasoning doesnt work, go with the universal language. corporal punishment.
yeah i understand toddlers like to throw shit everywhere and all that.
im talking about the moms (or dads), where your ONLY job is to take care of the kids.
there should be no exception. for the house "not being taken care of"
things should be tidy.
things should be clean.
meals should be prepared.
if you have a job. yeah fine, being tired is an excuse.
ok i'll clarify.
the reason i started this was because the OP was very quick to ask for advice on how to comfort his sister during these hard times.
im not the type to comfort someone, even if they're family, if they're WRONG.
you have to know both sides of the story.
to some of you, cheating might not ever be justified (to me it is), but regardless. even if he didnt cheat, lol people get tired and will eventually divorce or get in a huge fight and punch each other out or whatever.
the end result is the same.
the focus should not be on the cheating, or fighting, or whatever.
the focus should be on why one person is straying away or acting the way they are.
if the answer is logical, then there is a logical fix to it.
if it's unlogical, then you can try to reason with them. if that fails, then well, it's destined to not work out.
people focus on the wrong things. actions come from a series of events that lead up to it. the events are what matters, not the end action.