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Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma
to some of you, cheating might not ever be justified (to me it is), but regardless. even if he didnt cheat, lol people get tired and will eventually divorce or get in a huge fight and punch each other out or whatever.
the end result is the same.
the focus should not be on the cheating, or fighting, or whatever.
the focus should be on why one person is straying away or acting the way they are.
if the answer is logical, then there is a logical fix to it.
if it's unlogical, then you can try to reason with them. if that fails, then well, it's destined to not work out.
people focus on the wrong things. actions come from a series of events that lead up to it. the events are what matters, not the end action.
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WOW.
Just a few things I find offensive about that.
A...cheating is never, NEVER "justified". Oh, you can come up with 100 different excuses of why you went and slept around...she let herself go, she's a lazy twat, I slipped, tripped and fell in that vagina penis first. You name it.
All of those are wonderful reasons to sit her down and say, "here's the deal going forward...choose one: I stay, and fuck around. I leave, and fuck around. Or I fuck around and you pretend not to know. Let me know your choice."
Why do guys sleep around? Because we can. Because it feels good. Because we want a place set up for them to go.
Why don't guys have a conversation like I outlined above? Because we CAN'T. Because it feels BAD. Because it leaves us EXPOSED. She could kick your ass out, and you now have no where to go.
You are asking for a logical reason? What, she was asking for it? Even if she were a big fucking bitch, that's not a reason to be out sleeping around, that's a reason to do something about it. Leave, stay or whatever.