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sekin67835 · 08-15-2012, 12:47 AM

Try to join a club that you think you will fit in, and sign up to become an executive of the club. Try talking to classmates left and right of you no matter if it's a guy or girl. Don't think talking to a guy is a waste of time. These guys can hook you up and bring you into their social groups if you're losing HS friends.

Before you even look for a girl, think about why a girl would be attracted to you. Why would a girl not be attracted to you? Think about the qualities that you can work on, and the faults that you cannot change. Work on your positive side and don't be afraid of your weaknesses.

Being an introvert is fine, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to strangers with your own persona and confidence. Try talking to yourself in the mirror everyday for 5 minutes. Gradually, you will learn to be able to talk more freely without stuttering.

Also practice your smile. A smile will go miles. Smile at everyone. Not one of those fake smiles, but a genuine smile that goes all the way to your eyes. Practice it and smile at everyone you see. This will not only improve your image, but strangers may be more willing to talk to you or even approach you first.

Learn to make small talk. Don't just talk about the weather. Talk about your vacation trips, school (a bit boring but sometimes it can be a great topic), your hobbies.

Now that you can hold a conversation, be confident while you talk, and have some social groups that holds parties or events, you are more ready to look for your significant other. However, I suggest you don't "look" for one, but rather "let" one show up. But these girls aren't going to show up unless you're meeting them. Be genuine about each person you meet, and if you are attracted to them, ask them to chill/study/eat. Remember, first impression is pretty important, and the girl may have decided whether you are dateable.

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Before you think about how depressed you are, and how improving your social skills is going to be a daunting task, think about the other people who have hardships in their life. No one goes through life without fucking shit up. There are many people in your situation but there are also many people who will want to help you become the person you want.

Also, before you go looking for the girl of your dreams, how will you know what you really want if you haven't even really dated yet? Go out and try to date as many girls as you can before it's too late.

08-15-2012, 12:47 AM	#6
sekin67835 I Will not Admit my Addiction to RS Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: vancouver Posts: 502 Thanked 443 Times in 128 Posts Failed 100 Times in 17 Posts	Try to join a club that you think you will fit in, and sign up to become an executive of the club. Try talking to classmates left and right of you no matter if it's a guy or girl. Don't think talking to a guy is a waste of time. These guys can hook you up and bring you into their social groups if you're losing HS friends. Before you even look for a girl, think about why a girl would be attracted to you. Why would a girl not be attracted to you? Think about the qualities that you can work on, and the faults that you cannot change. Work on your positive side and don't be afraid of your weaknesses. Being an introvert is fine, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to strangers with your own persona and confidence. Try talking to yourself in the mirror everyday for 5 minutes. Gradually, you will learn to be able to talk more freely without stuttering. Also practice your smile. A smile will go miles. Smile at everyone. Not one of those fake smiles, but a genuine smile that goes all the way to your eyes. Practice it and smile at everyone you see. This will not only improve your image, but strangers may be more willing to talk to you or even approach you first. Learn to make small talk. Don't just talk about the weather. Talk about your vacation trips, school (a bit boring but sometimes it can be a great topic), your hobbies. Now that you can hold a conversation, be confident while you talk, and have some social groups that holds parties or events, you are more ready to look for your significant other. However, I suggest you don't "look" for one, but rather "let" one show up. But these girls aren't going to show up unless you're meeting them. Be genuine about each person you meet, and if you are attracted to them, ask them to chill/study/eat. Remember, first impression is pretty important, and the girl may have decided whether you are dateable. edit* Before you think about how depressed you are, and how improving your social skills is going to be a daunting task, think about the other people who have hardships in their life. No one goes through life without fucking shit up. There are many people in your situation but there are also many people who will want to help you become the person you want. Also, before you go looking for the girl of your dreams, how will you know what you really want if you haven't even really dated yet? Go out and try to date as many girls as you can before it's too late.