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Originally Posted by 8thcivic
sorry about what uve experienced. My gf still denies that it was flirting, cause shes saying thats the way she talks to her friends even her girl friends. And i do know that its true so maybe that "steak" talk wasnt flirting? maybe just a normal joke? even tho it does seem like a flirt, she claims that it was not her intention. however i still find it unfair how she was able to "joke" around with him and at the same time, flipping out on me when i didnt do anything wrong. If i tell her to stop talking like that to guys, she would just say its unfair how shes able to be herself around girls but not guys.
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no need to be sorry. it sucked, it irked me at the time. but im glad its over with because it actually opened up my eyes. i had the same mentality as you. wanted to do whatever to save what she and i had. was not going to happen. once she trips those warnings in your head, you just cant trust her the same, and you realize it's gonna happen sooner or later, that she'll leave you.
i'm sharing my personal story with you because i'm hoping that you can make the link from your situation to mine, and hopefully get you on the right path. my friends (mutual friends of hers) tried to give me warnings about whats going down. i already had my suspicions but i was too stupid to do anything about it, thinking i can fix things. remember this, and you'll see this throughout many serious topics in this sub-forum
It's a two-way street. She has to meet you halfway or it'll never work.
i don't know how long you've been with her, but one last bit of my personal story i'll share with you, and hopefully, you can at least open your eyes a bit, and see the bigger picture.
tl;dr
3 year relationship.
shit started going downhill
too naive to stay strong, trying to save it
broke up.
happy in less than a year
i'm hoping this helps you out bro. honestly, i feel like im right there in your shoes reading your first post, and i wish you all the best.