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Originally Posted by freakshow

Why are you in your current relationship?

I question myself on this all the time but im sure anyone who gives it more thought knows that its such an amazingly loading question given how simple the question is worded.

Am I with her because its easy? Or are there an infinite amount of small things that off the top of my head we could only think of maybe 20% of the full amount? Even thinking of it now its so hard to tell, it is easier, and I do love her, but do i just love her because its so easy and its tried and true given how long we been together, or do I really really love her. It always goes back to the question that can never be answered, "Is this it?".

Originally Posted by jameswift

Spoiler!

A few years ago when I picked up my brand new car, I swore I'd never eat in it, I washed it all the time, I was careful not to park too close to a minivan with kids.

A year later, I eat in the car. I throw my sweaty tennis gear in the back seat, I park in Aberdeen mall, clearly I don't care.

I often want to sell my car (in my case because my lease is killing me) and it's just way too much money for what I can afford right now.

Relationships are much the same.

In the beginning, the car was so dam fun and sexy and I knew it wasn't cheap, but I loved the car enough to buy it. The excitement faded.

I really like my car. I know for a fact that it's a good car and something I really enjoy but I take it for granted.

An example is the other night I go for BBT and I park in the parking lot and a few cars over there is a white Lambo SV. As nice as my car is, it's pretty basic compared with something like that.

So I look. I wonder about it. I think to myself, dam, that's pretty cool - I wouldn't mind getting one of those. It would be so fast and fun and just the experience of having such a beast would be crazy.

For a moment I forget about my car. I think to myself that if I had the money, why would I have the car I have now when I could have that.

It's the same thing with woman. We always want the next thing. We may have something good but when we see something else, we end up wanting what we see with our eyes and make it out to be in our head.

Lucky for me, I've owned a baby lambo at one point in my younger years and have friends with exotics. I know that with the joy, comes a lot of bad as well.

Overall, when I stop and think with my mind, I know the car I have now is actually the better car for me. It suits what I need and I do really enjoy it.

Guys are always going to look at the smoking hot girls, or the athletic girls, or the person that has or does something we like.

What we don't see is the person they really are. Maybe they're not loyal, maybe they're a head case with drama out of this world. There is no such thing as the perfect person.

At the end it comes down to what you want in your life.

You have a two seater convertible when you're younger, you move into a luxury car later, maybe get an SUV down the road.

We all have different phases in life. If you're at the stage where you're considering getting married, you should have a different set of expectations then when you're clubbing with the boys.

No matter what you drive, you're always going to notice other cars, and you'll always wonder (this is why if you can, drive a bunch of stuff and get it out of your system when you're young).

Otherwise you'll decide at 50 you'll sell the 4 door and buy a lambo even though it's going to break your back.

End of the day, figure out what stage your at, what matters most to you, then go from there.

Great post, thanks for the insight.

Using the car analogy I feel like I am driving a more than decent Lexus, lets say is350, great car and has been reliable its whole life. But im eyeballing that BMW m6, could be a lot more fun, difference brand (race LOL), but who the fuck knows how reliable it is. What if I have tonnes of fun with the m6 but days where I miss just having my is350 sitting at my garage rather than an m6 who would always want to go out n party.

Also I feel I'm some what peculiar guy, to get that m6 I would do my little routines, get the girl hooked, all that bullshit; for me to be normal with someone it takes a really long time. No one, not even my mother, makes me be myself than that is350.

I dont really give a shit about the m6, just the thought of it (i plan to help the guy beside me get the m6 cause he is obviously into her) makes me a little sick. I want to explore, but I dont want to have those days where Im just so lonely, and just want a girl to be there and do nothing with me.


I will probably stay with my current, learned some shit today that really turned me off on the m6. Its really fucking weird, yesterday night is350 texted me and said she needs to talk to me about our relationship and wouldnt tell me over text because she says I will jump to conclusions, Im sure it can only be bad things, is this a sign D:? Im 99+% that it will be fine though. When its time to end it, it will be time to move on...