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“Dude, I see a girl... now what?!”

People have been asking for openers or opening lines, so I figured I'd throw together a guide on it and improve on it when I have the time.

First of all, I see a lot of people flooding into this site from all the other big schools of PU thought and such, it seems the general consensus around here is focused more towards Natural and/or Direct game. So this guide will be discussing mostly that.

Few quick rules:

1. If a girl is walking by and you make eye contact with her, and you think shes cute, open.
2. If you see a cute girl that you think you would want to talk to, and you start to wonder what shes li.... quit fucking thinking about it, go open her.
3. If you check a girl out, open her.

Pretty stupid simple stuff. So now your wondering what to say. I'll go ahead and put down my two default direct openers I go to pretty much every time. They are honest, and they are direct.

The Bravery Opener:

“Ok, so this is like the BRAVEST thing I've done all day, but I just had to let you know I think you're cute/adorable/(insert direct compliment here).”

The Hulk Smash Opener:

“Ok, so I'm sure you have some giant boyfriend around here that would probably turn green and throw a car at me if he were here, but I figured its totally worth it... I think you're cute (or some other compliment.).”

If your mind completely goes blank and you're awestruck and can only think, “Damn... shes so cute!”

...then there's your opener.

So I opened... now what?

Everyone always wants to know what to say after the opener, so here's a few simple tips that will get you talking.

1. After the direct opener a girl will usually smile or there may be a brief second of silence, this is where you can introduce yourself.
2. If shes with someone, ask how they know each other. You can usually pick up on some detail during their answer and continue the conversation off that.
3. Notice something about her, something she is wearing, etc. Shes wearing it because she likes it, so if you like it to, then you have something in common with her (example: cool bracelet, etc)
4. Tease her about something.
5. If you're really lost, ask a question.
6. Use a qualification statement/qualifier.

If you're really, really lost, push yourself. Do something, ask interview questions. Just hang in there and get some experience. Try to push yourself a little farther than you're comfortable with. Eventually, you will get comfortable because you will develop the attitude of "I've been there before."

The more you go there, the more you've been there. (If that makes any sense at all)

This is just a simple guide on opening directly. The reason my direct openers work so well is because I thought of them and they are congruent with my personality, I listed them as examples, so feel free to make your own and test them, or just say whatever's on your mind. You would be surprised.

Yeah cool, but how do I know if she's diggin' me?

If you search around the community pages, you'll find out about these things called IOI's and there are virtually 100's of them you'll hear about. And if you really focus on every little detail and really start to notice the way shes twirling her hair and how many times she blinks...

… your probably getting blown out because there is much more important shit you can be doing.

So lets keep it stupid simple, especially if your new to this stuff.

Ways to know she's diggin' ya:

1. Her chest/tits are facing you.
2. Shes smiling at you/laughing at your jokes.
3. Shes closing the distance between you/seems ok with you closing the distance.
4. Shes touching you/ok with you touching her.

If shes doing these things (doesn't have to be doing them all at once) and shes still talking to you, then just assume your doing fine and keep talking/progressing. I usually don't analyze stuff until I'm done for the night or at least with the people I'm talking to. Enjoy it while your doing it, over thinking will kick your ass.

So if you read this post and see a girl tomorrow, you have no excuse not to approach.

(And any further questions are welcome, will make additions as requested)

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Note: IF your prone to overthinking stuff and your still working on opening, then go do that first before you start asking a whole lot of questions, just have fun, dammit!
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Additions and Troubleshooting: Per Request

Amendment 1: "Oh Hell, everyones looking at me!"

Well... no, no they're probably not. At leat not at first, and most people are to concerned with their own life to really bother with what you are doing... unless your dressed really ridiculous or you're being very loud (and if you are... I mean c'mon, you're asking for it). I can remember before I started this stuff and I saw a guy approach a girl, and I can remember thinking, even if he blew it out, "Damn, that dudes got balls." Basically stated, you doing things that people only dream about doing (even simple things like approaching hotties) will earn the respect of strangers, win, lose, or draw.

But if you score a number, or even just a decent conversation, most people will look at you like a god. Once again, because you have the balls of a snowman (3 deep and ICE COLD).

Amendment 2: "Dude, what the hell is a qualification statement?"

Its a very cool thing, my friends. Qualification is when you use a statement (or a question) that gets someone to "prove" their self to you. Most qualifiers statement has a pre-set frame that your hinting towards, or action/quality, that she has not demonstrated yet (and you want her to). So keeping it simple, its one of the many ways people can start to earn their way into your life. People love to feel like they've earned something. A lot of these will pop up in the context of the conversation.

Couple Examples:

"I LOVE dogs... are you a dog person?" (statement shows that YOU like dogs, and she now knows that she would be looked upon a little better if she likes them too.)

Say your having a conversation about something you like, but before you tell a cool story (bro), you ask, "Wait, are you an open minded person?" If she wants to hear what you have to say, then she will say "Yes, TOTALLY!" or something like that.

Then there is the good old, "Your REALLY cute, but lots of girls are cute. Tell me something awesome about you." Pretty much directly gets her to qualify herself, and she'll start naming off things that she likes about herself in an effort to meet your approval. Don't forget to compliment her when she complies.

Like said below, if shes still talking to you and showing one (or more) of the four indicators of interest (or IOI's) I mentioned, then assume your doing fine.

credits to Luchador