[eggtart_prince]

Since there is no forum that is related to family issues, this is the closest I can think of.

Short version, parents are divorced. Mom and his tenant in-common wants to buy a house and wants me to apart of the ownership.

Currently living with dad, and have been for 22 years.

a) If I choose to buy a house with my mom, I will have to leave my dad on his own.
b) If I choose to stay with my dad, my mom won't be able to afford a house.
c) If I choose to move out by myself, I have to leave my dad on his own and my mom won't be able to buy a house.

Long version.

When we came to Canada, my uncle which is my mom's brother let us rent his basement until now for a very good price.

My parents were divorced when I was around 11ish. My mom secretly met somebody else and I suspect my dad knew about it for a while. The day my dad decided to confront my mom, he brought me and brother along with him. He confronted my mom and the guy at an underground parking lot and got in a fight with him. Me and my brother stood in the car and watched.

After that, my mom didn't live with us anymore. She did come back and get her stuff and got into arguments with my dad. She even explain why she did what she did and try to resolve by asking my dad to give her another chance, but he refused. When I got older to understand, my mom told me that my dad have been trying to evade tax (because he is self employed) and she had been covering his income tax and cannot continue to do so.

They didn't bother going to court for the custody of me and my brother, and my dad demanded that we have to stay with him. I was too young at the time to even decide and just go with the flow. My mom did convince me to move in with her but I was caught in the middle at the time to even know what I wanted and who to go with.

My brother took care of me for a very long time. When I was about 20, I decided I want to move out, but my dad demanded I don't because it will cost a lot of money, so I didn't.

Here is where the problem begins...

My mom is currently mortgaging a house with her tenant in-common (which is the guy he left my dad for) and his brother, which is a 3 way split. But now his brother decides that he can't live with my mom, and my mom don't want to live with him either. So she wants to buy a house of her own and wants me to be a part of it.

My uncle have secretly told my mom that he wants dad out but doesn't really want to tell it to him because we are his nephew. My dad have encouraged me to buy a place as soon as possible, he even said buy a one room apartment and he'll sleep in the living room... I mean, really?

My mom is stressing about getting a place and is desperately seeking my help with her on the house. If I choose not to help her is that too harsh?

Although it's been a long time, the thing that pisses me off the most is that my parents decided to divorce. Why did my dad choose to let us watch the confrontation? Why did my mom decide to have a secret affair? Why did they not put us into consideration before doing anything and how they allow us to know the truth? Now that I am older, I think that they should have been mature about it and talk it out before letting us know. Instead of getting in a fight, and have us stuck/choose between them two.

With all these questions in mind, should I just move out by myself and forget about helping my mom with a house and forget about what my dad wants to do with his life? I can sense through my conversation with my dad that he is feeling insecure because my brother just proposed to his girlfriend and now my dad feels like he's losing a family member. But I mean, I need my own life too, so if I decide to buy a house with my mom, is that a cruel decision considering my dad has been paying for the rent ever since? And I've been living with him since?