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vvd · 10-01-2012, 08:49 PM

That's tough... being stuck in the middle like that and having divorced parents.

How has your mother contributed to your upbringing? Has she given you and your dad money? Does she take care of you and your brother from time to time and spend time with you? Why are you so concerned about helping her? How is your own financial situation? Are you a student? Are you working? Part-time? Full-time? Are you paying for rent right now?

If I were in your position, these would all be important factors.

In a more objective point of view, if you helped either of your parents out (assuming that your dad would help you out financially when you buy a place to live with him), at least you wouldn't be on your own when buying a place. In the end, once your parents pass on, the property would be yours anyway, right? If you were to move out on your own, it'd be 100% on you. I have no idea if that's a factor for you. It's just a thought.

From what you've posted though, here's what I would be thinking if I were in your position:

First of all, your mother HAS a place. As far as I can see, she's not going to be homeless anytime soon. If she hates where she's living and can't afford to buy and/or mortgage another house, she shouldn't be. And she shouldn't be putting it on you.

For me, helping my mom in this case is already off the priority list.

Your dad is a bit of a different story. If your uncle has already said that he wants your dad out, your dad may need help. From what you've said, he isn't able to afford his own place. Is he able to afford living on his own if you leave him?

Really, I'd be caught between living with my dad and living on my own, but do you really feel a strong need to leave your dad?

You could always stay with your dad a little longer while you decide and save up to (possibly) afford a bigger place (so you can live with your dad more comfortably, if you decide to do so) until your uncle straight out says he wants you guys out.

I don't know how urgently you need to buy a place and move out of where you are.

Sorry if I'm not of much help.

Good luck, op.

10-01-2012, 08:49 PM	#4
vvd Proud to be called a RS Regular! Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: BC Posts: 143 Thanked 87 Times in 29 Posts Failed 3 Times in 3 Posts	That's tough... being stuck in the middle like that and having divorced parents. How has your mother contributed to your upbringing? Has she given you and your dad money? Does she take care of you and your brother from time to time and spend time with you? Why are you so concerned about helping her? How is your own financial situation? Are you a student? Are you working? Part-time? Full-time? Are you paying for rent right now? If I were in your position, these would all be important factors. In a more objective point of view, if you helped either of your parents out (assuming that your dad would help you out financially when you buy a place to live with him), at least you wouldn't be on your own when buying a place. In the end, once your parents pass on, the property would be yours anyway, right? If you were to move out on your own, it'd be 100% on you. I have no idea if that's a factor for you. It's just a thought. From what you've posted though, here's what I would be thinking if I were in your position: First of all, your mother HAS a place. As far as I can see, she's not going to be homeless anytime soon. If she hates where she's living and can't afford to buy and/or mortgage another house, she shouldn't be. And she shouldn't be putting it on you. For me, helping my mom in this case is already off the priority list. Your dad is a bit of a different story. If your uncle has already said that he wants your dad out, your dad may need help. From what you've said, he isn't able to afford his own place. Is he able to afford living on his own if you leave him? Really, I'd be caught between living with my dad and living on my own, but do you really feel a strong need to leave your dad? You could always stay with your dad a little longer while you decide and save up to (possibly) afford a bigger place (so you can live with your dad more comfortably, if you decide to do so) until your uncle straight out says he wants you guys out. I don't know how urgently you need to buy a place and move out of where you are. Sorry if I'm not of much help. Good luck, op.