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Old 10-01-2012, 11:32 PM   #8
Tapioca
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Tough situation.

If you haven't left any facts out of your story and what you say about your dad's actions is entirely true, I would probably stay with your dad. But you need to establish some ground rules:

- It has to be time-limited (maybe 1-2 years at most) so that you can eventually become independent, functioning adults
- You should not buy a place, especially in current market conditions. Rent a 2-bedroom suite once your uncle kicks your dad out - doesn't have to be fancy (could even be a basement.)
- Help your dad get on his feet - getting him a job, etc.

As far as dealing with your mother, tell her that you don't appreciate her bullying you into helping her buy a house. It doesn't sound like she provided much support to you financially following the divorce, so you really owe her nothing. As Noir stated, you won't be a bad son for doing this.

Finally, it's not your fault that your parents got divorced, so don't blame yourself for the actions of your parents.
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