[miss_crayon]

What you decide to do with your parents is up to you, but I strongly advise you to not (like some others said) bind yourself to a contract with a "stranger," despite there being a family member involved. I see this ALL the time at my job where people will purchase a property together (friends/uncommitted couples etc) only to have it fall apart. Lawyers get involved and it is NOT pretty.

If you DO decide to help your mom, I'd only sign with her ...however given the circumstances of your relationship..do you even comfortable with it?

Personally, if you are not financially ready to purchase a home right now..don't. Give it a couple more years to let your money grow and for the decision to move come naturally. If you purchase on the spot, it'll never be THE place you actually want. For now, like others suggested, renting a place out with your dad wouldn't be a bad idea.

As for the questions on why your dad took you and your brother to see the fight, why your mom left....etc etc. I would suggest getting professional help, not because you're "crazy" or anything, but I think it would help you find peace on the divorce. Like you said, you were young, you didn't really understand what happened until you got older. However, something as big as a divorce can really hurt a child's development when it comes to sharing feelings, attitudes, social activity etc etc. Even though you are older now and are able to figure things out a bit better...it wouldn't hurt to speak to a therapist on your feelings.

My mom came from a divorced home, and even though she is nearing 60..I know the way she is sometimes is a direct reflection of her parents divorce which happened when she was like...7. Not saying she hates life or anything, as she has a wonderful marriage/kids, but she didn't get professional help which I think would have helped in her process of recovery.

Just remember to take care of yourself!