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Originally Posted by Glove
I sometimes get hundreds of texts from people everyday asking me questions about car shit, every, fucking, day,
and usually im all for helping, but once in a while I get fed and and dont want to help people anymore without them paying up,
if someone starts the conversation with, "hey I have a question", I will usually ignore, I dont have time to be an encyclopedia for people that are too lazy to do their own research.
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Continue doing that and you're giving people the idea you like helping or don't mind at all, when really you do. Why not just reply with, "you have money?" or "Call the mechanic." I think it's better to be straight up about it then ignoring and continue letting that person think you are a helpful person. That way, people will understand you, and you will understand yourself.
If they're not very close, nothing wrong with being straight up like "advice is not free. diagnosing cost money you know?" Clearly, these people are using your knowledge and will never return the favor, or thank you in a way other than just saying thank you.
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Originally Posted by snails
someone wants to ignore you? just talk to someone else. repeat if necessary.
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Then you're just using someone as a rebound to fill that hole someone else created.
Certain circumstances, I can understand, like late at night, I'm tallking to a chick and all of a sudden, she stops replying. I will assume she probably fell asleep, which in most cases, it's true. Because the next day, they reply back to whatever was sent last.
But I find it rude that the other side doesn't say good night or ttyl when they are going to sleep or whatever and just leave you hanging, and never reply back again. I mean, how the hell do you expect me to message you again the next day or whatever, after you constantly keep on doing it.
It's like talking to someone face to face, and then they suddenly walk away. Okay, fine. You see them again next time, talk face to face again, and they walk away. Same thing with text/messages. But it does relate. People who ignores text are usually people who would cut you off and change subject or talk to another person because they feel they are in an awkward or pointless situation.
If they expect to go to bed in the next 15 - 20 min, say good night or ttyl, don't use me to help you fall asleep.
What Ulic said is all true. It's shows how much empathy that person have and what value they have for you in their world.
Every time I check my phone and if there is a message, I reply right away. Unless while I'm typing a message, my supervisor gives me an order to work on. But text/message sent to me never ever goes unanswered. If I'm too busy to talk, I'll tell them straight up, "hey, kinda busy, right now, ttyl". Then I'll message them later why I was busy and see if they still need anything or continue what was a small talk conversation.
In the end after talking to a chick and if she ignores me, I always tell myself, I'm willing to put out first manner wise and get down first favor wise. It's their loss.