Originally Posted by Ulic Qel-Droma
to me, not replying a msg is the exact same thing as ignoring someone to their face when they say hi. like pretending they don't even exist. it's rude.
if someone sends me "hey", i don't care what the intent is, or what their objective is.
i will reply "yo".
and it's done. if they have something real to say they'll say it. if they don't then it ends there.
if im curious i'll go further it by going "whatsup?" or "what did you need?"
i will always reply, usually immediately, but if im busy, i'll reply by the end of the day. but i will reply. i won't leave people hanging. it's super rude.
i find it reflects how people perceive you.
not replying amplifies the fact that you are selfish and or you put yourself higher than the other person. whether or not its true or not. that's the image you give off.
I know some people are super clumsy and forgetful, i give those people a lot more leeway, cuz well, they're super clumsy and not organized. what can u do about it? they are ALREADY CLUMSY and DISORGANIZED.
but i don't give other people the same slack. i know they're super organized, and i know they check their phones like 10 times a minute. if they don't reply, i assume they're doing something busy, in a movie, a meeting, or fucking a girl or something fairly important.
if they don't reply after 1-2 days i start to think they're dead or they're just being rude.
at the end of the day, i just go whatever. they have lowered themselves to the level of disrespectful and unreliable.
and i have promoted myself to someone more reliable than they are. i will always be there for whatever reason unless im sleeping lol.
this especially goes for people that READ the message (read/double checked, etc), and DONT ever reply. even when its a direct question. not just "sup"... like "what are you up to tonight/tomorrow etc"
i find some people don't even like picking up. they operate in their own world and just decide whether they want to communicate to others or not. I'm a total extrovert, and from what ive seen, most people that don't reply or dont pick up calls are usually introverts.
they dont mean to be rude, but their world doesnt extend past their own lives. lol. they typically care less about other people, and dont find it to be rude. although they should know, THEY ARE BEING RUDE lol.
they just live their own lives in their own minds, and dont feel the need to satisfy other people's needs, even if its something so small like replying a message.
i guess that's the difference between someone that shows the basic understanding of empathy, vs someone who is a little out of touch with society and other people.
at the end you cant really get mad, cuz those people that don't reply, DONT GET IT. they just dont get it at all. they dont feel the same things you feel. they operate on a different bandwidth or whatever you want to call it. it's like a real effort for them to "get it" and reply. it sounds ultra selfish, but well, what can you do, thats the way they operate.
i really think it boils down to how much imagination and empathy you have.
the more of both you have the more likely you are to reply. because you can imagine the time and effort (no matter how small or big), it took to write a message, and you would want a reply if you were the one that wrote it, therefore you reply.
kinda like "treat one as you would want to be treated yourself" type mentality.
others just... it flies over their head. they deem it as "necessary" or label it as something "little". like i said, it totally boils down to empathy. they don't see how the other side will react, and expect them to react the same way as they do. be all cold about it.
THATS my perspective. that is the reason why i always reply.
my biggest petpeeve is when people ask you a question, whether its simple or a complex question. and you give them the answer they need, and there's no reply. not a thanks, or not even a "k".
it's like... yo man, you do realise, you are using other people for their knowledge, to help you out. you can't just go around asking people shit and not thanking them, using them like tools or monkeys or some shit. people will be more willing to help you out the next time if you are polite and give them the respect they deserve.
introverts, i don't get them sometimes lol.
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