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Originally Posted by mr_chin
Sorry you're going through this. Maybe you should express how you feel about your friendship with her. Maybe deep down inside that she feels the same but assumes that you've bonded with this group and that you've changed.
Try not to be too direct. Maybe get her something like a breakfast or something in a one on one situation and then slowly slide your conversation into something like "don't you just miss the old days when we used to laugh so much together?" etc.
Try to play it smooth so it doesn't seem like you're forcing it onto her. If she still goes yeah maybe no etc. Just enter the awkward silent and eventually she'll go "i gotta go", etc. Then pull your last card by holding her back and get into your serious mode and ask her straight up what the problem is. Tell her how you feel about your friendship with her and how you want it to be like the old again.
Better find the answer now than go on stressing about it.
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Yeah thanks for understanding man. I honestly have never thought about that, cause I did sorta "change" a bit as I've stated. Yeah I don't know about hanging out one on one dude, every time I ask her to hang out she doesn't really acknowledge it you know? For example I'd say, "Hey we should go do _______ again, it was so fun last time we did it!" and all she would say is "Yeah", like I don't want to make myself look worse by overextending to her, adding to that, we used to hang out before after every lab and we had a lot of fun, convos were so natural and flowing, but now it's just all missing. And she sorta prefers to hang out with the other guy in our friend circle now. But yeah, I mean even if we did somehow go one on one, it would sorta be weird talking about this with her directly (from her POV I suppose) as we just met this September and had labs together every 2 weeks (6 labs in total), and what exactly is the awkward silence for? I don't understand, is it so she reflects? Damn, why do people have to come into your life, only to leave.. I hate it.