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Hi everyone.
Thanks for your opinions. I would agree with everything that was said above. I never base my friendships on the bank accounts of others.
In fact, I've dated some very wealthy woman and I decided to be with the person I'm with simply because I love them. They're a great person and I do see a future with them.
I have been blessed and lucky to have had a very affluent time in my 20's. It was fun to live that and also taught me some great lessons. Money isn't everything. In the end, what matters are the people in your life and the things you enjoy.
I guess the next piece of this puzzle is how to proceed.
I'm not sure if I should just be straight up with my girlfriend and explain to her that I may never be baller and are you really okay with that? As much as it would kill me to see her go, I'd rather save us both the headache of not being happy down the road if that is what matters.
I don't think she really knows the situation I'm in. Since she met me she's only seen me as an average guy. I met her shortly after I went bankrupt which is maybe a good thing. I still have nice things (I'm not driving a beater and all that) but I'm far from being wealthy or even above average.
Interestingly enough, I spoke to some of my female friends about this and most of the said it shouldn't matter, just so long as I can support myself
Maybe I'm too old school or have an ego. I love someone, I want to take care of them - I grew up with dad being the big shot so maybe that plays into it.
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