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Tapioca · 11-27-2012, 09:39 AM

Is your work/family business more important to you than your ability to make friends? Maybe you need to ask yourself why you're investing so much of your youth in this family business? Are you going to run it yourself someday? Your 20s are a time for risk-taking and personal growth. It seems that you're stuck in neutral and you lack a bit of confidence in yourself. As a Chinese guy myself, I understand the whole family loyalty thing, but it comes at the expense of self-development. What happens if the business goes down due to no fault of your own? What happens when you decide that you want to settle down and have a family? You need to have social skills and you need self-confidence when life throws a wrench at you.

My advice to you is that you start taking some risks. Cut back your hours at your family business (even if it's just 1 or 2 days a week) and find something or re-discover a long lost passion of yours. Maybe it's a sport, or maybe it's writing poetry. Once you do this, you'll develop more confidence in yourself and from there, you'll be able to put yourself out there.
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Tapioca OMGWTFBBQ is a common word I say everyday Join Date: Apr 2001 Posts: 5,203 Thanked 2,797 Times in 1,247 Posts Failed 81 Times in 54 Posts	Is your work/family business more important to you than your ability to make friends? Maybe you need to ask yourself why you're investing so much of your youth in this family business? Are you going to run it yourself someday? Your 20s are a time for risk-taking and personal growth. It seems that you're stuck in neutral and you lack a bit of confidence in yourself. As a Chinese guy myself, I understand the whole family loyalty thing, but it comes at the expense of self-development. What happens if the business goes down due to no fault of your own? What happens when you decide that you want to settle down and have a family? You need to have social skills and you need self-confidence when life throws a wrench at you. My advice to you is that you start taking some risks. Cut back your hours at your family business (even if it's just 1 or 2 days a week) and find something or re-discover a long lost passion of yours. Maybe it's a sport, or maybe it's writing poetry. Once you do this, you'll develop more confidence in yourself and from there, you'll be able to put yourself out there. Posted via RS Mobile Last edited by Tapioca; 11-27-2012 at 09:44 AM.