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Never ever ever use work as an excuse as to why you have no friends, or why you're lonely. I've lived in Japan where it's almost the standard norm for people to work 16 hour days and most days of the week; and if you're sociable and likeable, you will always have friends no matter how busy you are.
I've met tons of people who blame their lack of social activity due to work. It's lame and such a defeatist behaviour equal to cock-blocking for a girl when you know you've lost to a better person. So the first step is don't be that guy, never EVER be that low of a person, and don't ever EVER stoop to that level.
IMO, being sociable is easier when one is aloof and approachable. When I read your description, what stood out the most is how involved you are with your work; your responsibility to your family; and a lot of other uninteresting details that probably don't matter anyways (middle-class/chinese, etc). In all fairness, although these qualities are amazing on paper, but in reality, just reading a few bits of you and I'm already bored and I find nothing really interesting about you as a person.
Now, I'm not purposely being mean but try to be objective as well here. If you can take step out of your own shoes and look at the description you just wrote - what would your conclusion about said person be? Is he exciting? Is he interesting? Do you think this guy is a ton of fun when you're bored, or have a small window of social life in one's busy life to spend on?
Anyways, is there any way we can write a better page about this person? What attributes could we add to make this person sound better? I don't have an immediate solution for you but maybe injecting a little "positivity" into your character may be a good start.
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