[mr_chin]

Internet advises relationship seekers to stop being needy, but be yourself.

First of all, if you're a needy person in a relationship, then that's you isn't it? People will advise you to stop being needy, then doesn't that mean you have to stop being yourself?

If you're a needy person, shouldn't you show the other person that you're needy and eventually find someone who will like you for your neediness?

It's funny because internet uses advice based on the majority of the people who feels neediness can be annoying.

I think neediness fails when one side treats the relationship very seriously while the other is looking for more space. Also, many people cannot tell the difference between needy and controlling.