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Originally Posted by mr_chin
Internet advises relationship seekers to stop being needy, but be yourself.
First of all, if you're a needy person in a relationship, then that's you isn't it? People will advise you to stop being needy, then doesn't that mean you have to stop being yourself?
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"Being yourself" applies to positive traits, interests, principles.
Being "needy" is not a positive trait. Think of it this way. Replace "needy" with, for simplicity's sake, "an asshole."
You can't just say "I'm an asshole." Whoever wants to date me has to deal with me being an asshole. Well, you can say that. But you won't get anywhere.
If you're an asshole, check yourself. If you're needy, likewise.
related-ish note
I came across this guy the other day from someone posting on Facebook.
www.qualitydatinglife.wordpress.com
Apparently this guy's a dating coach from Vancouver lol