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You guys talk about the "friend zone" like its a border that you cross without a sign by the side of the road.
"Oh fuck! did I cross it? Am I there? Oh shit. I asked how her day was and was sympathetic to her feelings, when I should have been puffing my chest out and asking for a sammich"
It's already done man. You meet someone, and there is either a spark, or there isn't. Occasionally, a spark forms over time, or you lose it, but I don't think its something you cross into, its something that forms.
So sitting there wondering if your actions are driving it is, in my opinion, some internet bullshit perpetrated by a group of douche cannons trying to make it rich online telling guys that they can fuck a large amount of women by acting all primal around them.
So you want to avoid being "just a friend"? Tell her..."I am attracted to you" Want to avoid coming across as too forward? Wait until there is some indication that she might be attracted to you.
If you've been hanging out with her repeatedly, and she is a human, heterosexual female, then this type of shit is not going to be a foreign language...the thought, on some level has been in her head. What's complicating it is she just got out of a fucked up relationship and her head space may not be right in the place of "I want to jump right back in with this guy".
Therefore, if you do like this girl, your "move" needs to be slow and you need to be patient, but don't sit there and be paranoid of some internet meme "friend zone", be conscious of her feelings as she deals with the end of a relationship. If she's into you, she'll let you know when she's ready.
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