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Originally Posted by dinosaur
Dude, she doesn't owe him anything. They knew each other for a few weeks and it was his choice to take her out, call, and text. It was his choice to care and like I said previously, she didn't make him like her.
Maybe he needs to take responsibility for not being upfront right away! What were HIS intentions? Why was he continuing to hang out with her?
Don't make this a bigger deal than it is. If she is acting like she doesn't like him because she genuinely does't like him...MOVE ON! If she is acting like this to play games....MOVE ON!
Either way, buddy needs to forget it.
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He clearly states...
following 2 weeks, i took her out for dinners, went to the movies, and hung out quite frequently, handful of text messages every day. It was clear that she liked me, sending me messages every night saying she misses me, calling me often even at work on her break etc. and every time I'd drop her off at home she would give me a kiss.
So how did she didn't make him like her. A girl doesn't simply text "I miss you", calls on her break, and kisses him, if her intention was to be friends.
In some situations you can't just be upfront with a girl after 2 weeks. By doing so, it's either a hit and miss. You either get a response of their feelings or you scare them away. This guy played it safe and in reality, something cause her to act that way, and he deserves to know.
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Originally Posted by Gridlock
What? She doesn't 'owe' him anything. They were hanging out, he got clingy and she went to find something more appropriate to her needs.
She 'could' be nice and say something like, "I'm just not that into you", but how many people at this stage are going to go out of their way to have THAT awkward conversation.
He took a risk in telling her that he had feelings. Welcome to what sometimes happens when you take a risk. You get burned.
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although i may sound like i took her out EVERY DAY, no i didn't, i thoroughly controlled myself
I'm just in the wtf situation since her behavior changed all of the sudden. Its not like something went viral between us.. I thought maybe shes acting like this ever since i asked her to start a relationship? but no that doesn't make sense since we continued to hangout and do our things like nothing happened
According to OP, he didn't get clingy.
I think it's wrong that she just suddenly changed and not letting him know what happened. Are you saying she's shouldn't be responsible for her actions and decisions? After what she's done with and to him?
I agree with you though on the risk part, but the least she can do is tell him what and where did it go wrong. Who's problem is it? His or hers? By not being responsible, the rejection/negligence can really fuck with his head.
Everyone should be responsible for their actions. If she sat back and never led him on, and he's the one constantly texting her and asking her out and she denied it every time, then OP has nobody to blame but himself. But clearly this is not the case.