[Yuffa]

From a girl's point of view, I don't really know how to communicate when I'm upset because sometimes I'm not even sure what I am upset about exactly. It might or might not have to do with the guy or it can be a combination of different things. (ie lack of sleep/hunger that leads to grumpiness)

For me, instead of exploding in anger and ranting about whatever comes up in my mind, I rather take some time to think it through before communicating about what happened. Reason being words that come out while I'm angry might be hurtful and often does not reflect how I truly feel.

And of course when I'm upset that will cause the bf to be upset and it will just turn into a big argument that goes no where except hurting the both of us at the end.

One solution that have worked for me brilliantly so far is email. First of all I let the bf know whenever I'm silent, it means that I am upset/grumpy but I'm just not sure why yet. It doesn't necessary mean he did something wrong. I just need some time/space to process my thoughts.

So when I go to work the next day I will write up an email as to what happened and how it could've lead to my grumpiness. Then we just kinda email/text back and forth during the day and eventually talk it out in person after work.

And this works vice visa whenever there are any issues he wants to bring up as well.