[Yuffa]

We all have seen one, someone of us might be guilty of being one. I'm talking about the Facebook friend that is so obviously vain and downright blatant about how beautiful they are. I'm talking about friends who status updates are 90% of the time about how great they look, or how great complete strangers on the street tell them they look.

What should we do about them? Is it best to say or not to say something to them? Most of the time when it's an acquaintance, its best to just click "un-subscribe". Why waste the effort of a stranger? The dilemma occurs when it comes to a friend you actually care for and want the best for. What should one say to such a person? How would they respond to this kind of "for their benefit" criticism?

Well, I've just had the unfortunate experience of saying something to a vain friend I care for. Most of the time I simply ignore people who are like this. But with her, I did not want to see her go through life suffering from the fall out of such prideful and boastful behavior. She doesn't see that prideful attitudes like this pushes away the very type of people she wanted and needed in her life. The people that are drawn to her end up being the exact people she complains about.

We met at church and she was kind to me so I felt more compassion for her. At times she also posts about how she desperately wanted to be loved and feel so lonely because she can't find guys who like her for more than just looks. There's a hint of her desire to find more in life. At a deeper level, she is compensating for how she really feels about herself; worthless without the daily affirmations from her friends even if it's about her appearance.

I had to say something, she was doing too much damage to her reputation. I privately messaged her and gently told her that things like this is best shared with someone she can trust, someone that deserves to know. That she should keep her own personal thoughts in a private journal rather than on the internet.

I thought we had a good chat and she would stop but a week later, she is back at it. I spent so much time and effort trying to gently tell her to stop but it was getting no where. The sugar-coated methods got us no where; so I will just have to tell her straight up. I private messaged and told her to stop being so full of herself. She did not respond well at all, she denied it and un-friended me.

I am upset that she failed to see that I am one of the very few people who is still on her side. We have another mutual friend (that she also un-friended) that would stalk her FB posts and mock and make fun of them behind her back. I actually private messaged him and told him to stop with the internet bullying.

I'm sad for her and feel a little discouraged but at least I tried.

tl: dr Good friend that is lonely and desperate constantly post FB status that results in hurtful comments. Un-friended me after I called her out privately.

What would you do?