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Originally Posted by nns
You know I think you're right. My mom is one of those people who doesn't talk when something bothers her or she's upset at you. When I was a kid growing up, I remember I made her mad and she stopped talking to me for around 4 months. No exaggeration. She wouldn't talk to me. I didn't know what I did wrong. I was maybe 12 or 13 years old. She stopped talking to me, so I stopped talking to her. Silence. I was a kid, I didn't know how to handle it.
Because I grew up with this shitty impression of how to deal with problems, now I've adopted that shitty personality. I can't deal with my problems well. If someone bothers me, I won't talk to them.
Again, when I was younger, early teens I think, my sister and I had a disagreement. Some dumb shit. I wouldn't admit to being wrong, wouldn't talk to her about it either, and we didn't talk for around 6-7 years. It got a little bit better after about the 8th year or so. Still weird to talk to her these days.
I absolutely hate how I've become like this. My default reaction is silence. It's horrible. What's worse, I can't seem to change either. I can't get out of this instinctive reflex. I resent my mom for this.
Everyone, take it from me. If you have this silent treatment, please don't pass it on to your kids. Think of it as a disease. It's poison. Don't let someone else's life turn out like mine.
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bro, I don't think reacting to a disagreement/argument with silence is necessarily what the bad thing is here.
I think what the bad thing is here is the quality that some people like to hang onto grudges for an unreasonably lengthy amount of time; like 4 months long or 6 years long.
(unless it's something big that you've done something that would change how others will look at you forever, that length of grudge holding is just wayyyyyyy beyond reasonable IMO).