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Originally Posted by Glove
this just seems so fucking odd to me,
when im upset I know exactly whats making me upset, and I know exactly what resolution I require to make myself un-upset.
I dont understand why a woman would need time to think about why she's upset, if you dont know why your upset, then why the hell even be upset in the first place?
and then if you need time to think, it might be understandable if it was like 1 day to mull it over, but then why do chicks take a week to mull it over?
my now ex gf and i always had this problem, we could never communicate properly because our personalities clashed like this.
When she would get upset, and like you, not even know why she's upset, would give me the silent treatment for a week!
it got to the point where whenever I knew she was upset, i would just say "ok talk to you in a week" then just not give a shit until she was cooled down, and THEN i would always have to probe her as to why she was mad in the first fucking place, then she would blow up at me a week later anyway because it was all bottled up. Then I would always say, why the fuck couldnt we talk about it right away and not waste a week of our time?
what a fucking nightmare it was for me, the entire time.
the next girl I date i'd prefer if she threw plates at me, and atleast hash it out right there on the spot, rather than just go mia for weeks at a time in a hissy fit of rage.
I honestly think its an asian thing. Thats the way her whole family communicated all the time, with silent treatments to eachother for months on end, they would never work it out because the person who brings it up is the one who "gives up the silent war"
whereas me coming from a euro family, we always hashed shit out right on the spot, yelled at eachother and my mom would yank my ears n shit, she still does. But atleast when its over that shit is settled and we eat dinner together and talk about current events.
fuckin childish retarded silent treatments.
I need me a white chick
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It could be an Asian thing because the general rule-of-thumb in Asian culture is to be quiet and not cause any trouble whenever something happens.
Then again I think it's kinda how men and women thinks differently too. Girls in general are emotional beings. We over think things and we add all kinds of emotions behind everything we think and do.
Men on the other hand are more logical and are a lot more straight forward in order to get to the point.
Another common reason that leads to arguments that men often simply don't understand is when girls rant about their day/troubles. From most girl's point of few they just want someone to be there to listen and tell them everything is going to be ok.
From a guy's point of view; he hears there is an issue and will automatically begin to process the problems behind this issue and the available solutions.
Most girls are not looking for option A,B and C here. They just want a little emotional support to make them feel better at the end of the day.
EDIT: Woops posted on the bf's account. This is Yuffa here.