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Mr.HappySilp · 01-06-2013, 04:14 PM

Maybe both of you are in different stages in the relationship. Maybe he is only in stage 3 or 4 while you are in 5(getting ready to marry). So you guys think and want different things from the relationship.

Taking your anger out on him isn't a good idea. What you could have done is talk with him without getting angry or sound negative. Try something like this "I love you very much, and I know you are trying very hard in the relationship, but I think we are wanting different things from the relationship. I want to get marry and start a family but I feel as if you are not in that stage yet. I think it is best if we both take some off our relationship and see how things go. I still love you but there are some things I need to figure out on my own but I still like to keep dating you."
This way you are not sounding negative, you acknowledge that he loves you, and is trying is best so he didn't know anything wrong.

Guys are like rubber bands. Sometimes we stick really close to our gf then we swing the other way around. Is not that we don't love you guys or like you, just that we feel uncertain and if the girls comes chasing us when we swing back, we feel pressured,push around and might even think the girl isn't the one. When we swing away the best thing is let us do our thing, when we bounce back we will even care you more.

I actually learn a lot about girls and guys and dating from reading a book call Mars and Venus on a date. Give it a read. SOmestuff sounds accurate some not so much.

01-06-2013, 04:14 PM	#6
Mr.HappySilp reads most threads with his pants around his ankles, especially in the Forced Induction forum. Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Vancouver Posts: 10,645 Thanked 2,191 Times in 1,131 Posts Failed 929 Times in 340 Posts	Maybe both of you are in different stages in the relationship. Maybe he is only in stage 3 or 4 while you are in 5(getting ready to marry). So you guys think and want different things from the relationship. Taking your anger out on him isn't a good idea. What you could have done is talk with him without getting angry or sound negative. Try something like this "I love you very much, and I know you are trying very hard in the relationship, but I think we are wanting different things from the relationship. I want to get marry and start a family but I feel as if you are not in that stage yet. I think it is best if we both take some off our relationship and see how things go. I still love you but there are some things I need to figure out on my own but I still like to keep dating you." This way you are not sounding negative, you acknowledge that he loves you, and is trying is best so he didn't know anything wrong. Guys are like rubber bands. Sometimes we stick really close to our gf then we swing the other way around. Is not that we don't love you guys or like you, just that we feel uncertain and if the girls comes chasing us when we swing back, we feel pressured,push around and might even think the girl isn't the one. When we swing away the best thing is let us do our thing, when we bounce back we will even care you more. I actually learn a lot about girls and guys and dating from reading a book call Mars and Venus on a date. Give it a read. SOmestuff sounds accurate some not so much.