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Originally Posted by MindBomber

I don't feel there is a well-defined convention on funeral attire; only the very general rule, make humble and conservative choices.

I would absolutely wear a black suit to the funeral, I wouldn't consider anything less formal. The details, such as tie and shirt colour, are not terribly important. It's acceptable to choose to not wear a tie; its also acceptable to choose any dark or neutral colour shirt.

Depending on the formality of the family, I would consider dark jeans or dress pants, a dress shirt, and a sweater generally acceptable for a wake; a very traditional family would likely prefer dress pants.

I've attended two funerals recently; the funerals and services were the very sad portion and formal, but wakes felt only mildly somber and were relaxed, definitely casual overall. During the wakes, I spent a great deal of time re-connecting with people I rarely see, giving hugs, and reminiscing about better times. I wouldn't worry too much about what to wear, though. People will not be concerned with your attire, as long as its not something eye catching (and thus inappropriate).

Possibly obvious, but its likely best to pass on cologne as well.

I would just add that I wouldn't make a phenomenally drastic wardrobe change between the wake and the funeral, less it detract or draw negative attention upon yourself... hence why I would go for the dress pants with a shirt or sweater look, and put the jacket on for the funeral itself. But I've thankfully (knock on wood) only had to go to one of these in my life so far so my experience isn't exactly enormous.