[BallPeenHammer2]

Just bit of a rant and request for opinions.

I was introduced to this girl a few months ago by a mutual friend. The attraction was instant and we started hanging out more and more frequently, until we eventually started dating.

The first few months were pretty hot and heavy, and I started falling for her hard. 3 weeks ago, I noticed she started behaving a little bit more colder.
She asked for a bit of space. Which I gave to her, although I started to feel a bit uncomfortable.

Then last week (on CYN), when she came over for our date night, first thing she did was start crying her eyes out while holding on to me after she walked in the door. She asked to break up. citing that her feelings were fading and now are gone. I was and still am pretty devastated. We've never fought, or had large arguements. I've been pretty open about how I am and how I would like to be treated in a relationship, welcomed her to open up about that too, and have numerous times communicated to her the importance of honesty and communication.

Now this isn't the first relationship where it's been serious for me. and i've been around the block a few times over the years.

My main question is: How does one LOSE feelings for another in a span of 2 weeks? Just before that she mentioned that she was liking me more and more, and thinks that this could be love.

My personal belief (cuz I've had it too) is that usualy it's when the other does something that the other person just can't get past.

It doesn't need ot be anything significant. It could be something big or something as small as the way they talk in a certain kind of situation. I usually find this kinda shit out within the first month of dating someone.


The secondary question: Why the fuck do woman always break up with you, then cite 2 weeks to see if they feel it come bacK?

I mean, we all know that those 2 weeks is just a mercy killing timeline, where they steel their hearts to come back and rip your heart out a second time. So why do they bother? and why do we bother? I ended up telling her, after a few days of angry back and forths, that "If it isn't about reconciling, then we have nothing to talk about anymore"


The third question: Why would she try to talk to you after breaking up? Just missing companionship? if so. That shit's kinda cold. She has tried to talk to me like we used to, send me funny text pics, etc. basically, trying to treat me like a normal friend albiet knowing the underlining issue that would be why I CANNOT reciprocate.


The fourth question: In an situation like this, there is no going back, is therE? None of that giving her 2 weeks of silence and maybe she'll turn around garbage. In my experience, Once a woman "loses her feelings" for a man, that's it. There's no going back.


The fifth question: We're both very sentimental people. (She still has a chocolate bar I got her randomly at a gas station when we started dating). However i'm the type to return EVERYTHING the ex has at my place. That included everything she gave me (clothing, candy, gifts) as well as personal belongings, even down to something I owned but she used exclusively while were together, to even the food she brought over. (She was gonna wait until AFTER our date the night of the breakup. She even packed me a lunch. WTF?).

Is this an individual thing? or is what I do considered cruel/cold?


The last question, which is kinda WEIRD: WHY THE FUCK WOULD U TOUCH MY CROTCH AND TELL ME THAT'S ONE OF THE THINGS YOU'LL MISS THE MOST DURING A FUCKING BREAKUP?! NOT LIKE U'RE EVER GONNA SEE IT AGAIN!!!. Shit. I called her out on it and she was like "oh it's too weird to do it now".

^ sorry, that one's more of a rant than a question, but feel free anyway.

I mean, I like to THINK I have a grasp on all these questions, but nevertheless, thought I should spit out one of the most common sets of questions (minus the last one) most ppl have in their minds in a situation like this. Your comments and thoughts would be appreciated.




Thanks all.