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Marco.911 · 02-23-2013, 01:28 PM

With all the stuff on here about problems and helping others, I thought it would be nice to share what works in your relationships and to share those best practices.

And example would be:

"Don't go to bed angry" and then some details such as "We make an agreement to discuss and talk about everything and resolve things before we go to sleep. Even if we're tired we stay up solving the issue because the relationship is that important.

I don't mind sharing one to start off with.

I personally believe in not saying anything hurtful to the other person in an argument. It is so hard to do this but once you say something, you can never unsay those words again and it can come back and bite you. If I am really mad or upset, I just explain the reality of things:

"I'm really upset right now and I don't want to make matters worse. I need about an hour or so to cool off and I will address this situation when I can think rationally and without hurting you. Is that okay?"

Of course the other party needs to be aware of what needs to happen and of course the 1 hour rule can't turn into a day or anything like that.

I find for me, it has worked well and enabled me to really get to the root of the problem and talk things out like adults. Often once I've had some time to think, I calm down and it's not a big deal anymore.

02-23-2013, 01:28 PM	#1
Marco.911 NOOB, Not Quite a Regular! Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: Richmond Posts: 43 Thanked 82 Times in 19 Posts Failed 37 Times in 8 Posts	Sharing Best Practices (relationships) With all the stuff on here about problems and helping others, I thought it would be nice to share what works in your relationships and to share those best practices. And example would be: "Don't go to bed angry" and then some details such as "We make an agreement to discuss and talk about everything and resolve things before we go to sleep. Even if we're tired we stay up solving the issue because the relationship is that important. I don't mind sharing one to start off with. I personally believe in not saying anything hurtful to the other person in an argument. It is so hard to do this but once you say something, you can never unsay those words again and it can come back and bite you. If I am really mad or upset, I just explain the reality of things: "I'm really upset right now and I don't want to make matters worse. I need about an hour or so to cool off and I will address this situation when I can think rationally and without hurting you. Is that okay?" Of course the other party needs to be aware of what needs to happen and of course the 1 hour rule can't turn into a day or anything like that. I find for me, it has worked well and enabled me to really get to the root of the problem and talk things out like adults. Often once I've had some time to think, I calm down and it's not a big deal anymore.