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Originally Posted by Lamboda
^ It's the same feeling. Throughout my 3 years at uni, I haven't made that many lasting friendships. Most of my close-best friends are from highschool and work. It seems to me that acquaintances stay acquaintances until you hang out with them outside of school. I feel that it really needs to be 1 on 1 and not in a giant group. I'm in some student clubs and I haven't really made any super close friends there. Everyone's just friends.
I found that it takes two in the relationship. I mean, usually you have to make the first move and ask if they want to chill or hangout. When you starting doing that, then it's totally cool. I personally don't bother with people who don't have time for me.
Also, don't always think of it's hard making close friends in uni. Think about it, you just met the person and took some classes for about a semester. You're asking too much. Your best friends have years and years of experiences, laughter and memories. You have to start from scratch at uni with someone new. It took me 1-3 years of building a foundation for one of my best friends, and it was totally worth it.
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Wow, that's exactly how I feel dude. Spot on. The people from my highschool have WAY different mentalities than I do, that's why I don't associate with most of them anymore.
Yeah, the initial move is crucial, but I always wonder if it ever goes past the semester when you have classes are together. I've made a few "close" friends last semester, but it just sorta faded away with time, the convos just died out and we eventually just became another 'Hi' on campus, and they got replaced by the new people I met... I don't know if this the cycle of university, don't know what to feel about that. I guess my program is partly to blame as UBC is a very competitive and somewhat anti-social as well, and that my faculty is HUGE, and I don't know a good 75% of them anyhow. It certainly takes two people to make a friendship, but I mean there has to be an extent to how much effort one puts in, eventually you get tired of it. Some people I've met, they never even bother to contact/stay in touch outside of classes, it's just sad, but nevertheless they would still talk normally in person if I've met them.
I was thinking the EXACT same thing! I just saw photos on Facebook of a group of friends that met this year in university and are so tight, they hang out celebrate birthdays together, EVERYTHING! I've seen a lot of those types but It sorta hit me at that point, I have "friends", but at the end of the day, who's there to make real memories with? It was a sad epiphany cause I don't know. But maybe I'm just bad at carrying it forward, and maintaining friendships.
Just wanted to blow off some steam, thanks for the input dude.