[Culture_Vulture]

Hey nocturnals of RS,

I recently started seeing this awesome girl that fits the criteria of everything I would want in a girlfriend, except she's quite inexperienced in bed. And when I say that, I don't mean the sex is bad; I simply mean she doesn't have the "wow" factor of what most guys would ideally want in a woman. It doesn't really bother me all that much since I'm head over heels about this girl either way, but seeing as a long term mutually exclusive relationship is potentially imminent, I'm just wondering if this has any bearing on the trajectory of the relationship. My ex, for example, was awful in bed (even though we experimented every now and then), and nearing the end of our 3 year relationship, when all of the other elements contributing to our breakup started piling on top of each other, sex just became less and less exciting, and eventually even undesirable.

Now that could have been because there were a number of other factors playing in all at the same time, but still, I'm going off the assumption that regular (enjoyable) sex has the added benefit of keeping a relationship strong.
So, I'm interested in the community's opinions (particularly those who are/have been in relationships where the sex is just a mediocre experience as part of a relationship).
Just how important it is to be having "great sex" regularly in a long term relationship as opposed to just regular sex on a regular basis?


For the purposes of a general discussion, I suppose what constitutes as being "good" in bed could be anything that one would find sexually exciting/intriguing (be it just being confident with one's body and abilities, willingness to try new things, talking dirty, etc.)

And I should note that I'm not talking about a drunken one night stand where (presumably) the "better" the partner is in bed, the more desirable the experience. To generalize, most of the people that fall under this category are typically not great relationship material anyway.