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Originally Posted by 6793026
yeah i know exactly what you mean. i call these girls starfish. i guess the ONLY way to win is to groom them to something that you like.
you are JUST as guilty for not teaching her what you like and I took it into my own hands to teach my gf what i want.... good luck.
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Honestly I hadn't considered that, though I suppose it's a good point.
I've always thought of sex as something of a mutual give-and-take...yes I might be assertive and/or tell my partners what I want, but as far as "getting them in the mood" goes, sometimes no means no.
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Originally Posted by dinosaur
The key to have good sex is to fuck with no reservations that first time you fuck a new partner.
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I feel like this is easier said than done.
Suppose for example, that you do try to fuck with no reservations, but the energy levels between the two partners just aren't on par.
That's what happened the first time between us; in addition to being too shy to try anything remotely unconventional/out of the book, she just hasn't had that many partners to be comfortable with what she's doing.
Yes, short of forcing myself into her, I could have been more assertive with what I wanted. But I felt that would have ruined the moment, and like I mentioned above, it's not fun if it's not mutual.
I should mention that she's younger, although at this point it's probably pretty self-evident. I feel as if part of the discussion of how important it is to be "good in bed" also lends itself to a bigger discourse of how many partners does one need to be relatively more experienced.