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Originally Posted by dinosaur
My suggestion....find a place to live first. I think couples should live together before marriage.
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This is the most important advice in this thread. Spending every moment together, the weirdest things start to bother you. The way someone puts their toothbrush in the holder can lead to problems. Its fucked. Once you handle living together, then you will have a real idea of what things are going to be like. Fuck traditions, set yourself up for a successful marriage. Me and my wife to be have now lived together for a year, and we fight less than ever. Its really important to feel what its like to live together. It creates a totally different dynamic to the relationship.
Don't spend 20k on a wedding. Its one day. All it needs to be is your friends and family in a room, with some food to eat and booze to drink. You don't have to impress anyone, and nobody remembers your 5k flower arrangement, but they do remember how happy they were to see you, and all of your friends and family having fun. I spent about 3k on an engagement ring at spence. They were super helpful, and didn't try to pressure me to up my budget at all. As for our wedding, we are at about 6k for 140 people. The food is our biggest expense, the venue was less than 1000, and that 6k includes her dress. After buying some booze and renting suits we may hit 10k, but its going to be pretty rad, and no need to spend tons.