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Originally Posted by Gnomes
That 3 month salary -> De Beer made up that rule of thumb. Dont fall into their trap. $1-3k does sound reasonable. An engagement band (with no rock) will cost roughly $800 at Spence.
If you go to the states, they have cheaper diamond rings compared to Canada. I am talking ~10-20% cheaper. Costco USA do sell engagement rings too. If you choose to no declare it (I do not encourage nor judge you for doing so), I would recommend mailing the paperwork to your home address and somehow carry the ring discreetly  |
Ah I see! I'm def not going to fall into that trap :P.
I'll take a look in the states and see what they have. ~10-20% is a good amount of money to save. Do they tax 12% coming over? What if it was made in the USA lol.
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Originally Posted by dinosaur
Don't spend a lot on the ring. As you get older, you will always be able to add to it or upgrade is she would like to.
So, you ask how much a wedding, honeymoon, and a place to live? My friend, thats up to you. You can get married for $1k if you want and honeymoon in Victoria.
I say this without trying to sound like I am talking down to you, but you are young. PLEASE don't spend 1000s on a wedding. Shit adds up fast and at the end of the day, it does't matter what type of flowers you had or how many people you invite. This is better understood the older you get. It really doesn't matter. 10 years down the road and 3 screaming children, nobody will care if your wife's shoes costs $15 or $500.
My suggestion....find a place to live first. I think couples should live together before marriage. You need to realistically understand what it takes to be married. 21 is YOUNG! Trust me....I think back at the person I was at 21 and I shake my head.
You can save just as much money not being married as being married.
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Yea I don't want to spend too much on the wedding as it's just one day. There are a lot of other things that I would rather spend that money on things for the future. I'm pretty sure my gf wants to have a nice cute wedding (she's very crafty as well so I'm sure we'll cut costs this way too).
Unfortunately, she comes from a very traditional and religious family so we would no be able to move in together until we do get married. She is very respectful of her parents and has a very good relationship with them.
I've tried suggesting it numerous times but she knows her parents will not allow her to. She always says: "If we're going to get married in the future why not get married first?"
I know 21 is young but (un?)fortunately my life has kind of been going in a "accelerated" route :P (especially in terms of my relationship and career lol). Although I did miss out on the University exp by going to BCIT.