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Originally Posted by dinosaur
See...its shit like this that annoys me. This isn't directed entirely towards you, but it is VERY important that you live together before you commit your LIFE to a person.
Marriage is a MUCH BIGGER commitment than living together and the fact that you (the universal you) need to seek approval from parents to do so shows that there level of maturity is not high enough to get married.
Like I said...you are 21. That is young. Why the rush? Saying you want get married so you can live together is a poor reason.
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I don't know how I feel about this post, I agree for the most part and see your concerns, but I don't think that it's necessary for everyone to live with their mate before marriage. I think in life not everyone marries the person they are meant to be with, and in this case there would be need for one to live together first to understand each other more. And then their are the ones who know, sounds like OP found the one. They have a whole life together ahead of them and each part is a new journey. If they truly loved each other than I'm 100% they will be fine in the future. I honestly think that is the bottom line.. As for seeking approval from the parents, I don't know if OP is asian, but I'm going out on a limb to assume he is. Parents are single handedly the most important peoples in our lives. Lets just pretend the parents don't approve I think It's very important and find out why they don't approve because there must be a good reason in their eyes wouldn't you say? I don't know maybe I'm crazy.