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The thing about the list, is that you don't HAVE to agree about everything...and answers will change over time. This is where melloman is right when he says that you need to communicate and keep the dialogue open.
There is an ebb and flow to everything. The key to having a successful relationship is knowing when to give and take. There may be some weeks where one is so busy with work that the laundry doesn't get done and the other person takes the lead on chores....or there maybe be weeks where one person doesn't want to have sex 3 times, etc.
The key is not to get pissed off and refer to this "list" that was discussed prior to commitment, its about having that person's back and understanding that it was an 'off' week for the other.
The list shouldn't be looked at as a set or rules but more guidelines or a catalyst to provoke an adult conversation. Relationships aren't always full of rainbows and cookies....some times you need to separate that stuff to have important "life" conversations without fear or judgement from your partner.
Some times it is good to have a "check-in" talk with your SO. "So...how are you doing?", "How are we doing?", etc
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