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Originally Posted by wstce92
Seriously? There is no justification for cheating.
Don't have what you want at home? End the fucking relationship.
There is zero excuse to ever cheat on a bf/gf/fiance/spouse.
To cheat is the most despicable thing you can do to someone; clearly showing someone you're supposed to respect, care for, love, and cherish that you have zero respect, care, or love for them.
There is no gray area.
Relationship not good? End it. Don't cheat.
Relationship good? Don't cheat.
If you cheat, you deserve to get curb stomped. $
End this now OP. Before you're married with kids, and she cheats on you again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't be the guy that has to question down the road whether your kids are yours.
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Alright, so I'll slow this down for you.
When I said, "People don't cheat when they have what they want at home. Something ain't right with your relationship" I meant that this wasn't a matter of forgiving for cheating. This is about something bigger. So, if he is willing to forgive cheating, they need to examine the relationship because this isn't about sex....it never is.
As for your comments about cheating being the worst thing you can do, cheating always = breaking up, once a cheater always a cheater blah blah blah. This is where you are wrong. And, this is where you show your age (me thinks early 20s, never really been in a mature ltr-meaning living together, etc). It isn't always black and white. You add mortgages, kids, family, bills, etc into the mix and this "pack yo shit and leave bullshit" isn't as easy as you think. People make mistakes. BIG mistakes. Some times these mistakes are heat of the moment and some are long drawn out mistakes. There is a difference.
Why do you think I asked how old there were and what level of relationship it was. You need to chill out and think about it. In this specific case, yes...it is probably best the relationship ends as it is in its early stages....even 3 years in, there has been no bigger commitment besides "dating".
I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on after a 9 year relationship...living together, house bought, accounts joint, etc. Its not as simple as you think.
P.S. This was a nice touch: "If you cheat, you deserve to get curb stomped". Give it a few years....well, maybe in your case, more than a few....and you'll realize how irrational your post is.