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T4RAWR · 06-07-2013, 01:24 PM

Good Sir,

I would like to address the issue you are currently engaged in.

Firstly, there is ample evidence that you have been cheated on. From the sex in the car all the way to the lying and spending nights out with this fellow (which could suggest more sex), I think you should simply retract from this relationship.

While it is difficult to disconnect from a long term relationship, your relationship is and will never be the same again.

If you have retained any semblance of dignity left for yourself the best thing you can do is to end the relationship with your "girlfriend". I use that term loosely due to the fact that the moment she cheated on you, your relationship came to a screeching halt.

Now... There will be some who will say, "forgive and forget", or "cheating can be justified on certain grounds". Perhaps, even your girlfriend will try to justify her actions along similar reasoning. You must be strong on this and not accept her excuses. You should however, expect and accept an apology from her.

The fact that you are both beginning to emotionally disconnect reaffirms my suspicion that your relationship is headed for rocky shores. You should quit while ahead as the repercussions later will most likely be to a greater scale than if you were to end things now while you stand on the high ground.

Given that she was out until 230am without your knowledge I presume that you are not living together. I suggest you return to her the objects that she gave you at the earliest possible convenience. Those that she wishes not to accept should be discarded appropriately (i.e. diesel or kerosene + matches).

Delete her contact information from your phone and start to forget. It may be difficult to do this on your own so perhaps some close friends would be willing to take you out for some drinks and for some fun to get your mind off the recent events.

As a closing point, I suggest that you inform "Nick's" girlfriend about the situation. She deserves to know what has happened as she too is party to this event and as such is a stakeholder in the events.

I wish you well on your future endeavors.

06-07-2013, 01:24 PM	#49
T4RAWR Survivor MOD Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,138 Thanked 1,623 Times in 577 Posts Failed 37 Times in 21 Posts	Good Sir, I would like to address the issue you are currently engaged in. Firstly, there is ample evidence that you have been cheated on. From the sex in the car all the way to the lying and spending nights out with this fellow (which could suggest more sex), I think you should simply retract from this relationship. While it is difficult to disconnect from a long term relationship, your relationship is and will never be the same again. If you have retained any semblance of dignity left for yourself the best thing you can do is to end the relationship with your "girlfriend". I use that term loosely due to the fact that the moment she cheated on you, your relationship came to a screeching halt. Now... There will be some who will say, "forgive and forget", or "cheating can be justified on certain grounds". Perhaps, even your girlfriend will try to justify her actions along similar reasoning. You must be strong on this and not accept her excuses. You should however, expect and accept an apology from her. The fact that you are both beginning to emotionally disconnect reaffirms my suspicion that your relationship is headed for rocky shores. You should quit while ahead as the repercussions later will most likely be to a greater scale than if you were to end things now while you stand on the high ground. Given that she was out until 230am without your knowledge I presume that you are not living together. I suggest you return to her the objects that she gave you at the earliest possible convenience. Those that she wishes not to accept should be discarded appropriately (i.e. diesel or kerosene + matches). Delete her contact information from your phone and start to forget. It may be difficult to do this on your own so perhaps some close friends would be willing to take you out for some drinks and for some fun to get your mind off the recent events. As a closing point, I suggest that you inform "Nick's" girlfriend about the situation. She deserves to know what has happened as she too is party to this event and as such is a stakeholder in the events. I wish you well on your future endeavors.