[mr_chin]

I gave up on caring after a while. I realize that you just have to accept reality that these people do exist. These people just tend to do this by nature, they accept an invitation and gives you a "yes" and then later realize that (for whatever reason) they need to back out.

I have like one or two really close friends and our hang outs are never planned ahead of time. We just text each other whenever we feel like going for a beer or whatever, if he says, let's go later... I'm expecting a no and a never text back, vice versa, and we both understands. If he says, let's do something tomorrow... I don't have the expectation that we're going to do something tomorrow. It's usually a "i'll check back with him tomorrow to see if he still wants to go".

If we planned a place to chill and i get there and he doesn't show up without notice, that's what i call a "ditch". If he texts and gives a good reason, I'll probably text back with "you fucker... ok next time then". Next time, i'll make sure I don't show up first.. and text him to see if he's there first. Call it no trust or whatever... but we're straightforward and honest about it.

If you place people who forgets that they are suppose to go somewhere with you as good friends, take my advice... they're not worth hanging out with. And I can say that most of these people forget what happened during your hang outs, since they're so forgetful anyways. So those moments where you think you guys clicked, it's probably how they are, trying super hard to cope with you yet they don't even know it (hence why they make promises all the time... to cope with you). I don't know if I'm making sense, since it's kinda deep thinking.